Transforming Your Pain into Power and Purpose

I believe that every single one of us has a unique gift and task that we came here to accomplish.

When you move inward and make the deliberate decision to heal in mind, body and spirit, you create space in your conscious mind to discover what this is. Your life experiences are the puzzle pieces leading you to a higher path. Unfortunately, for many of us, these pieces will go unnoticed because of the powerful distractions our ego-mind has found comfort in.

Most of us consciously and unconsciously choose to avoid pain. We try to drown it out with any distraction we can; scrolling through social media, snacking, binge-watching Netflix, gossiping or using drugs and alcohol to escape the “mundane-reality” of day to day life.

Others find comfort within the pain and continue to reopen their wounds over and over again without ever truly going deep enough to heal them. They tell the same heartbreaking story again and again because their pain has taken over their ego identity. Instead of using the pain as a stepping stone to improve their life, they have allowed it to define their place in the world. Rather than transforming their pain into purpose, they have allowed their purpose in life to be their pain.

Underneath the pain you are carrying is the key to this deeper understanding of your soul. Within you, you hold all the wisdom, power, and clarity you need to move into your higher path and purpose.

What kind of pain are you transforming?

Pain from your childhood, heartbreak, abandonment, loneliness, longing? 

While your pain is unique to you, we are all one, and we all hurt. Every human being suffers; it is a critical component of our human experience. The good news is, we all have the power within us to transform any suffering, pain, and fear into the powerful energy of healing and love. This is the energy that supports you in receiving all of the goodness you’ve been calling into your life.

Collectively, I believe our goal is to raise the vibrations and consciousness of humanity. In other words – to change the world.

We do this by transforming our pain individually. This then allows us to become a leading light to help spark the fire of change in others.

Pain is your teacher and holds a great purpose. You must be willing to face the discomfort. Feel the pain, and learn the lessons you are meant to learn to discover the gifts hidden within them. Every painful experience you overcome is an opportunity to transform. You can shift the low vibrational, dense energy into the higher vibrations of love, abundance, peace, and freedom.

Our ego often leads us to believe that no one else can understand our pain. It convinces us that we are alone in our suffering.

This type of thinking allows pain to create a further disconnect between us.

The truth is, our suffering has the potential to bring us closer together as one. Through overcoming challenges, we have an opportunity to move towards a more collective state of consciousness. When you make the conscious choice to heal from the past and learn from your pain, you expand in your capacity to empathize, love and have compassion for others. You’re now able to understand the heartbreak someone else could be feeling because you have fully endured it yourself. You can now put yourself in the shoes of their experience, and see beyond yourself, beyond your suffering. Knowing that healing is possible, you can now help another person by inspiring them with what is possible when you turn your pain into power.

Whatever your experiences have been, and whatever your suffering, please know that you are not alone. Your pain is serving a powerful purpose. This was all part of your plan. You are strong enough to overcome it, but it takes patience and courage to face the darkness and transform it into light.

For many of us, this initial sadness stems from childhood, a time when we were too small to deal with our hurt. Because of this, we have become so good at avoiding and covering up the pain that we’ve forgotten it even exists – but it is there. You carry it around with you everywhere you go, and it is not going to go away until you confront it.

There are many things you can do to support your mind, body and soul in this healing journey such as

Self Reflection & Healing Support Strategies 

Discovering who you are, beyond your thoughts, is a game-changer. When you begin to notice how many of your thoughts are fueled by negativity and fear, in an attempt to keep you “safe” from your pain, you’ll gain the strength and momentum you need to heal. The good news is that thoughts are just thoughts; they are not who you are. With awareness, compassion and kindness towards yourself, along with your healing, you can begin to change them.

Meditation & Mindfulness

Our minds are created to think and think and think, but sometimes we need to give it a little break to get the answers we’re looking for. Even just practicing mindfulness and meditation for two minutes a day can be life-changing. Try not to get caught up in the “I don’t know how to meditate” or “I can’t do it.” The purpose is not to stop your thoughts; it’s to become aware of them. You will do this by shifting your focus back to your breath over and over again, perhaps even hundreds of times in a single meditation.

Journaling

You can write about feeling stuck. Create a list of what you have to be grateful for. Or reflect on an experience from the past. Try not to overthink it; write whatever is coming through to you. There is no wrong way to journal.

Some questions you may want to reflect on to get you started;

“What is my ego-mind trying to protect me from?”

“When did I first start forgetting about my power?”

“What is the next best step I should take in my healing journey?”

Turning off Electronics

Simply unplugging from your phone and other electronic devices can help you quiet down the noise and distractions of the outside world to connect with your world within.

Inner Child Work

Many people are unaware that most of their pain and trauma stems from childhood. This is why working with and healing your inner child is so transformational. Quantum physics has proven that time is not linear, which means that you have the power to heal the child within you now, thus changing your current situation in more ways than you can imagine.

Recognize Your Ego-Comfort Distractions

Where does your ego run to when your feeling uncomfortable? Snacks, exes, drama, Instagram? As soon as you recognize your comfort coping strategies, you can begin to bring your pain into your conscious mind by getting curious as to what’s fuelling the escape.

Get Support With Healing

Healing is the ultimate tool for taking ownership of your life and transforming it for the better. It’s essential to recognize when it’s time to reach out for additional support. We’re all in this together to support one another on our journey. You are never alone.

Whatever happened in the past is in the past. All that we have right now is this moment, and it is at this moment that you can choose to create a new path for yourself in the future. You are not a victim of your circumstances. You’re not a slave to your mind. You are the creator of your reality, and you can choose to live whatever life you desire to live.

Transform your life from the inside out and create a life you LOVE.

With lots of love and healing vibes, 

Elle XO

Sometimes It’s Necessary To Be Alone With Yourself

Sometimes it’s okay if you don’t have all the answers and you want to look for them alone. It’s okay if you don’t want anyone else to disturb your voice. It’s okay if you want to take a different road and get lost by yourself instead of asking for directions to a place you don’t really want to go to. Sometimes you just have to be by yourself when people drain you more than inspire you. When they judge you more than they understand you. When they make you feel even more alone.

Sometimes it’s okay if you’ve been alone for a long time and you still want to be alone because you were never the kind of person who looks for quantity over quality or the kind of person who needs just anyone around. You’ve always looked for depth, honesty, compassion and strength. You’ve always looked for people who don’t come around very often. You’ve always been drawn to people who aren’t everyone’s cup of tea. You’ve always been moved by people you only meet once in a lifetime and that’s why you keep finding yourself alone because these are not the people who are going to make the road easier for you because they’re also on a journey to find themselves and on a mission to change the world.

Sometimes it’s okay to face your own fears and learn everything about yourself including the hard things, the things you’re not proud of, the unflattering truths that you hide from everyone. Sometimes you need to face and forgive yourself. You need to look in the mirror and say even if you can’t get one single thing right, I’ll still love you and accept you because I’m stuck with you forever.

Sometimes you just have to break your own heart when you realize that you’ve had enough and you’ve cared more and loved unconditionally and gave your heart to people who didn’t deserve and now it’s time to find yourself again. Now it’s time to take the pieces of yourself back, polish them and start over. Now it’s time to remember who you were before you invested every little part of you in someone else and lost your worth. 

Sometimes it’s just okay to let yourself be who you really want to be and in order to do that you need to step away from everyone who is asking you to be someone you’re not and everyone who keeps telling you what to say or what to do and everyone who doesn’t know what you’re going through but gives you unsolicited advice.

Sometimes you need to be alone so you can find God, hear him, ask him for direction, ask him for guidance or closure, ask him for forgiveness and ask him for love. Sometimes you need to be alone with the universe so you can learn how to be your own universe when people fail to give meaning to your life because as long as you keep searching for meaning in the universe and as long as you keep searching for answers within yourself, you will surely find them.

𝓦𝓲𝓽𝓱 𝓛𝓸𝓿𝓮, 𝓔𝓵𝓵𝓮 ♥

This Is Your Reminder That You Will Get Somewhere In Life

I know it’s frustrating and difficult to know that you have been trying for some time now, maybe months, even years to get to where you want to be in life.

You are in school, but you had to take a year off for some reason.

Now you are behind and have to take a job in the meantime, but you are struggling to get work.

If you are anything like me, you may have mental health issues and that has impacted your life significantly and now you have to deal with living day to day on top of what you go through emotionally.

It’s a long and tiring road and sometimes you just want to say to yourself, “fuck it.” I am done. I have done all I can to push myself and I still am getting nowhere.

For a lot of us, we feel this way. That life is just never the way we want it to be and that our dreams, goals, and aspirations will never come to fruition.

But even though the journey has been difficult, a long and tedious one that you did not expect in 1000 years, you are getting to where you want to be.

It’s just not in the way you envisioned.

You see all those articles you have published now compared to a time when you had nothing?

That is progress. Now you have a portfolio to be proud of and show to potential editors for magazines, blogs and wherever else you want to write for.

The jobs you have on your resume?

That is preparing you for experience that you need for future employment and that is also progress.

All those letters of rejections, failed interviews, and no call-backs?

Now you know the value of waiting and what to do to better prepare yourself in the long run.

So you see, nothing tedious that we do is ever for no reason. It is always preparing us for something greater.

There is always evidence of our growth and our acceleration to our destinations, but it is often overshadowed by everything else that we don’t anticipate in life.

I can guarantee you, you are doing better than a lot of people who are struggling greatly right now in their lives and you are ahead of the game, but you just fail to realize it.

Just remember this: If you have a burning will to succeed in this life, to get somewhere in spite of your obstacles, it may take some pain, some tears, some frustration, but you will get there.

And you will have some serious life lessons under your belt as well so you are prepared when your time does come.

Do not despise meagre beginnings, you will get somewhere in life and it will be exactly where you have wanted to go.

Just be patient. 

𝓦𝓲𝓽𝓱 𝓛𝓸𝓿𝓮, 𝓔𝓵𝓵𝓮 ✪

One-Sentence Truths To Remind Yourself Of When You Feel Like You’re Falling Short

  • You can’t control the outcome.
  • You can only control the way you handle the process.
  • You get to decide who you are going to be when things get hard.
  • Everything is temporary- the good, the bad & the magical.
  • There are seasons for everything- embrace the one you are in.
  • Ask yourself this question- what is this experiencing teaching me?
  • Also: how can I be/do/act better next time?
  • Discomfort means you are doing something right.
  • Nothing great happens inside your comfort zone.
  • Greatness comes from trying new things, putting yourself out there, and being willing to risk it all.
  • We’re all just doing the best we can.
  • Everyone is struggling: everyone has a little bit of pain and a little bit of joy and a whole lot of overwhelm.
  • Everything you’ve ever done – every person you’ve ever met, every experience you’ve ever encountered- has brought you exactly to this point.
  • You’re doing so much better than you think you are.
  • Be your own best friend, your biggest advocate, your most adoring fan.
  • Fall in love with the process of becoming the very best version of yourself.
  • Recognize that failure, overwhelm, and feeling like you’re falling behind aren’t some indication that you’re on the wrong path.
  • Be the kind of person who honours their commitments, who shows up every day and does the work.
  • Trust the process.
  • You’re not falling behind, you are growing and refining and chipping away at the broken parts.
  • You are building your foundation.
  • Even when things get hard, joy is always accessible because it is a deliberate choice we get to make.
  • Be brave enough to open your heart to the people who have earned the right to witness it.
  • Deliberately make time to unwind and unplug.
  • Get out of your own head and find a way to be of service.
  • This moment right here? This very second? This is your life.
  • Let yourself be awed.
  • Let yourself be confused.
  • You are not falling short.
  • You are just beginning.

You Don’t Always Have To Be Okay, You Know

Sometimes I am not okay and I used to think it was not okay to be that way. It’s okay to break down and cry. It’s okay to admit to yourself and to the world that you’re not okay. It’s okay to ask for help and to talk about your problems.

It is easy to put up a front telling people around you that you are fine when deep within yourself, you know you are not. It is easy to remain quiet and keep everything to yourself. But that means you’re hurting yourself more and that’s not okay.You’re the only person who actually knows what is going on in your own head and you should not be afraid of your own thoughts or about how you feel.

It’s okay to talk about your problems. It doesn’t make you weak. Yes, it makes you vulnerable, but it will make you stronger.

Sometimes all you would feel is that everything around you is crumbling. It sometimes feels as if you are hit by strong currents or on some days, it feels like you’re being hit by a tsunami. It feels like as if you are drowning. Sometimes it feels like everything around you is happening so fast and you are trying your best not to drown. Sometimes it would feel like your entire vision is clouded by a wrecked storm.

You’re human and it’s important to remember that. It’s important to remember that no matter how strong you are mentally, you’re allowed to have bad days. You’re allowed to cry. But that doesn’t mean you should stay and be stuck in self-pity. Take your time to pick yourself up and glue back the broken pieces. Give yourself some time to heal.

It’s okay to voice out to someone. It’s okay to have days when you are not strong. It’s okay to be not okay. 

𝓦𝓲𝓽𝓱 𝓛𝓸𝓿𝓮, 𝓔𝓵𝓵𝓮

Read This If You Know Deep Down You Need To Start Over

At some point in your life you will feel like every choice you’ve made has lead you to the wrong path. You will question yourself whether you really know what you want, where you want to go, who you want to be with. You will force yourself to close your eyes when no one’s around you and allow yourself to finally let your tears flow.

You will have moments when your mind will be clouded by so much confusion. You will have days when you will feel stuck and paralysed and be afraid of the unknown. Your passions will fade and your heart will be filled with so much resentment. You will have days when you will just want to go through the motions, waiting for something to happen, waiting for everything around you to change.

But there comes a time, too, when you will realize that nothing in life stays the same.

You will realize that there’s always an end in every darkness. There’s always a hope despite your brokenness. And there’s always a tomorrow to feel excited about regardless of how terrible your day has been.

You will realize that you can always pick yourself up after you stumbled and fell to your knees. You can choose to look at the sky, after all the times that you kept your head down, and see how beautiful the world is, how beautiful life is. You can smile no matter how heavy your heart feels. You can go outside, take a walk, breathe the fresh air, and let go of everything that’s dragging you down.

You can begin from scratch all over again. You can forget all the people who brought suffering in your life. You can distance yourself away from any kind of environment that doesn’t inspire you. You can go somewhere new, somewhere you know you will be safe and secured, somewhere that no one knows your name.

You are allowed to decide what kind of story you want to tell to people, what kind of nickname they should give to you, and what version of yourself that you want to show to them. This is your life and you get to choose whether you want to continue feeling miserable in one place, or leave and start living the kind of life that you envision for yourself.

Forget about the fears that are preventing you from making a big move. Forget about what other people have to say. Forget about the what ifs that are haunting you on the inside.

You have to learn how to take risks, how to be brave, how to be independent, how to make a decision for your own good. You have to know how to fail, how to be broken, how to win, how to open your heart and love someone new. You have to believe that there’s a wonderful life that’s waiting for you out there and all you need to do is take a huge leap and trust.

You need to forgive yourself and allow yourself to heal. You still have more incredible memories to make. You still have new trustworthy people to meet. You still have plenty of days to laugh, to remember, to cherish, to keep in your mind forever. You are still young and you have so much more room to grow and so much more opportunities ahead of you.

There’s nothing that you can do about the past anymore. You only have today to prepare for a brighter, bigger, and better future.

You have today to push yourself to achieve your fullest potential. And you have today to prove to yourself that it is never too late to build a new life that you have always been dreaming of. 

𝓦𝓲𝓽𝓱 𝓛𝓸𝓿𝓮, 𝓔𝓵𝓵𝓮

10 Life Decisions You Won’t Regret You Made In 10 Years

The over-populated, you’ll regret this, you’ll regret that lists and videos that you find on the web are intriguing, to say the least. Interesting because there is apparently a deep fear amongst enough people to provide such content. People have a fear to not live their lives to the fullest, whatever that may mean. Recognizing the fear, we flipped the coin… and listed life decisions we believe you won’t regret making.

Life decisions aren’t about the cupcake you did or didn’t eat. It’s about life on a much grander scale. Concerning your values and thoughts on life’s more complicated questions.

Here’s a list of 10 life decisions you can make today, that you won’t regret you made in 10, or 100 years. Will it be easy? No, it will for sure require discipline. But like Jim Rohn so wisely phrases: We must all suffer one of two things: the pain of discipline or the pain of regret or disappointment. 

1. Embrace and express your true self

If you were lucky enough as a young kid to have loving parents or caretakers look into your eyes and tell you that you are unique and special and you should never let other people tell you differently you had a blessed kickoff.

If you didn’t, well, please take these words as truth. You have something to offer nobody else can offer. Nobody has exactly your personality or your gifts. You are more than average, you are one of a kind. A never before and a never again.

Living your life with a mask is not only tiring, you’re not really living. Truly and fully embracing life is only possible if you lovingly embrace and express your true self, with all its beautiful imperfections and quirkiness. Challenge yourself to fully accept yourself as you are and you’ll make a life decision you won’t regret.

2. Respect your body and (mental) health

Your body is the temple you live in during this life. Don’t take it’s health and well-being for granted, treat it with respect. A lot of people take their good health for granted until they get sick, and what a shame. Like it or not, quality of life is very closely related to your physical well-being. So be wise and take care of the full package before it’s too late.

Prioritizing your health by actively and mindfully choosing to take care of your body by implementing all forms of self-care  on a regular basis will be another one of those life decisions your guaranteed to not regret.

3. Don’t let others determine your dreams

In the introduction, we mentioned it already, prepare yourself for the pain of either discipline or the pain of regret and disappointment. That voice within that doesn’t use words but gives a clear direction, listen to that.

The already paved path is easy, fast and convenient, but not necessarily the most satisfying and pretty one. Deliberately choosing the off beaten path requires heaps of discipline but will reward you in ways your heart will forever be grateful for.

Whatever others – how close they are to you – tell you, you are the captain of your life and you ultimately decide which course your ship is sailing.

4. Letting go of control

We’re sorry (not sorry), but if it’s time to pop your bubble, its time. Being a control freak is not going to help you in life. You might feel that being able to grasp and control everything surrounding you is something virtuous but in reality, you are wasting your precious energy on something impossible.

Besides the fact that its impossible to control everything, life really would be tasteless if you could. No surprises and no challenges, how dull!

Ease up and trust the path that life has to offer. When the control mania hits you, take five. Take a couple of deep breaths, reconnect with the moment and send trust to yourself and the people involved. Allow yourself to be surprised and rather embrace the odds than reject (and try to control) them.

5. Stop judging

This article is all about life decisions and things you can choose to change for a more positive life. For some people, judgment is like the steering wheel of their life, and this is going to be something they will regret at one point or another.

A judging mind is a narrow mind. The more judgment you show towards others, the fewer other people around you will feel comfortable being themselves. And like vicious circles flow, it ain’t pretty.

Practice and embrace accepting things, events, people and yourself as they/you are. Observe the peace, freedom and love this releases. Life will not only be easier, it will be more open and it will flow like it should. Being aware and mindfully practicing to silence that judging voice will be a life decision you won’t regret.

6. Living in the now

The peaceful warrior a book by Dan Millman portrays three very easy questions, with three much more important answers.

Where are you? Here
What time is it? Now
What are you? This moment

Avoid living either in the past or in the future. Life is every given moment, encourage yourself to embrace that, for that is truly what life is. The past and future only exist in your thoughts, they are memories or projections that simply don’t exist.

Mindfulness is a wonderful tool to make the fullest of the moment, to really experience life as it presents itself. It inspires to utilize our senses on deeper layers, to enjoy what is given to us in that very moment. Ultimately it slows down the pace of life, to a pace that makes life more clear, more enjoyable and less frantic. Win-win-win if you ask us.

7. Appreciate the ugly

Everything has hidden beauty. Everything, everyone, everywhere.

Choosing to appreciate the ugly and recognizing the beauty everywhere we go will make the world a much more beautiful place to be. You’ll learn to enjoy the whole spectrum life has to offer.

Life is packed with dualities. Acknowledging this as a balance rather than merely something you have to accept brings more understanding. Recognizing how something worn-out adds character, or something sad is from a source of pure and honest love are just examples how appreciating the so-called ugly will make life not only more bearable but way more delightful.

8. Stop relying on money for your happiness

Of course, money is to a certain extent important to get around, to pay the bills and to enjoy certain aspects of life. But it seems that too many people nowadays rely on money as their ultimate happy maker. If I have that new phone… then man, I’m gonna live the life. But when they have the phone, the next big thing pops up.

Not spending all your money would definitely be one of those life decisions you wouldn’t regret in 10 years. Because in that time you will create a buffer that will give you peace of mind and freedom. You will appreciate less and understand that true happiness doesn’t lie in things but elsewhere.

9. Don’t let stress lead your life

I have a very wise (and beyond amazing) mother, any time she spots even a glitch of any of my stress symptoms (skin rash, a stiff neck, bad sleep etc.) she stops whatever she’s doing to sit down with me and help me put things in perspective. Why? Because she knows how poisonous stress can be. Within an instant, it can take over your life and cloud your otherwise oh-so-clear thoughts.

Taking enough time to really reflect on the decisions you make is key here. Be honest with yourself and listen to your gut feeling when it shouts noooooo!! Does [X] make you happy? Does [X] make you stressed?

And then finally, cut yourself some slack and put some things into perspective. Look at the situation from a different angle and be open towards all outcomes. How much stress does this bring along?

10. Accept that you can only change your life, not others

Often people fall into the trap of wanting to change people because it has helped them. How good and pure your intentions might be, you can hand them the key but they themselves need to open the door.

Of course, inspire people to live a meaningful and happy life and give advice if people ask for it but don’t be disappointed if people don’t change because you want them to.

It can be extremely difficult to see people close to you suffer, but your solutions might not always be the best for them. Support them when and where you feel you can, but most importantly, be the example. Don’t drown yourself in their lifestyle or choices, make time for your personal me-time by taking self-care seriously.

Tips on how to ride out uncertainty

In Australia we have had 37 Deaths from the virus. What I am more personally concerned about is the rise in suicide. The last data captured in 2015 had 3027 Deaths.

The overwhelming messages in my inbox of people loosing their jobs, riddled with fear and anxiety of the unknown and isolation with unhealthy vices which can all lead to a deterioration of mental health and high risk of suicide deaths.
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I have battled with mental illness , hence why it’s my number 1 priority to stay on top of my mental health at this time and encourage you all to as well.
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1. Check in daily with a loved one or friend.
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2. Join free groups, online soul circles and fitness challenges. Community is important so I’ll be running a free call this Sunday at 6pm for anyone who needs connection and a safe place to express.
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3. Seek professional help if you consistently depressed , anxious or suicidal. Life life number is 131114 – I’ve had to call once and it was such a beautiful loving experience.
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4. Daily movement , journaling, meditation, dance , breathe work, essential oils . All the things in your tool kit make it a non negotiable to force yourself to do a task that makes you feel good each day.
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5. Eat nourishing foods!!! Our food has a huge impact on our mental health. Refrain from emotional eating and binging.
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6. Be gentle on yourself, nurture your heart at this time melt into that softness. If you need help, guidance or healing be willing to ask.
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7. Reach out to people in your life and check in on them. Create meaningful conversations and deepen the togetherness.
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I am sending deep healing to you all. To those who have read this post and are feeling the waves of emotion I invite you to reach out. You are not alone.


Feel free to share this with someone who might need it.

𝔀𝓲𝓽𝓱 𝓵𝓸𝓿𝓮 𝓮𝓵𝓵𝓮 𝔁𝔁

Hitting Rock Bottom

The thing about life is it’s not always easy, and you can’t always win. At some point in life, it hits you. It hits you really hard. The person you love doesn’t love you back, you get fired, you lose a family member. At some point in your life, you’re gonna hit rock bottom.

You’re paralyzed, you’re like, ”why?” and that why can really really destroy you. Once you start asking yourself ”why me?” why not the others, why me? I’m actually a good person, I never did something significantly bad, why the hell did it hit me? Because that’s life.

Life is unfair. Success is not measured on the days when the sun shines. Success is honestly measured on the dark, stormy, cloudy days. And if you can’t absorb failure, the honest truth is that you may never meet success.

Sometimes it takes things falling apart, for better things to fall into place. Sometimes it takes the most uncomfortable path, to lead your life to the most beautiful place. There’s gonna be bad days, there’s gonna be dark days, but you need to embrace it. Because that pain is what makes you stronger. Failure is what makes you stronger. you have to accept those down times, because once you realize those down times, are just as much part of life as anything else, you are then able to strive again.

You’ll never see the purpose of the storm, until you see the growth it has produced. You will never understand why you went through, until you see the strength, the power, the resilience that it built inside of you. Ask yourself why. But this is a better why, “why am I doing this? Why am I failing? Why am I even getting myself in a situation where I could fail? Because I have a dream. Because I have goals. And the more you’re thinking back to those original goals, the easier it is for you to get back up and say “Alright, it might be difficult, it might be painful, it might be stressful, there might be no people that believe in me, but i believe in me.”

You know it might have been the case that you should have gone through that harsh break up, that you should have gone through that heavy loss, just in order to find something even better. The only way to get that even better, is to get back up and work. To get back up and put yourself out there again, to rise up again, stronger, better, wiser, ready to grasp that new opportunity.

You gotta believe that the tables in your life will turn. That pain will become power, that weakness will become strength, and that confusion will become peace. Better things are coming. Everyday is a new beginning.

𝓦𝓲𝓽𝓱 𝓛𝓸𝓿𝓮 𝓔𝓵𝓵𝓮 𝓧𝓞

The Need to Be Seen and Why It Truly Matters

One of the greatest human needs is the need to be SEEN, not for who we pretend to be, but for who we truly are underneath it all.  

WITH LOVE ELLE

Today I’m thinking about how most of the time we pass by one another without looking into each other’s eyes and recognizing who we truly are.

We walk around pretending the people around us aren’t people. And we pass by one another as if none of us actually exist. 

What has happened to us? 

The Need to Be Seen and Why It Matters.

Believe it or not, we all want to be SEEN. I guess that’s one of the reasons why social media is so popular. But the kind of Seeing we want to experience has nothing to do with this whole social media charade where life is presented as if it were a reality TV show and all of us are superstars. 

No. That isn’t it. 

We want to be SEEN. But SEEN for who we truly are, not for who we pretend to be.

We want people to look deep into our Core and recognize the part of us that is Sacred and Eternal. Because let’s be honest, deep down inside, you and I know that most of us are tired of pretending to be something we are not.

We want the whole world to recognize in us the part of us that is Unlimited, Eternal, and Divine. And treat us as if that’s all there is to us – Beauty, Innocence, Kindness, Purity, Light, Love, and Truth.

People want to be SEEN…

They want the whole world to look deep within their Being and discover the Greatness of who they truly are.

But who’s going to give that to them?

People on social media? Their friends and family? The strangers they can’t even look them in the eye while walking on the streets? Their bosses and co-workers?

Who’s going to quench this thirst of ours of being SEEN?

PATIENCE. LOVE. And COURAGE.

It takes time, patience, and a great deal of LOVE and compassion to know what human beings are truly all about; It takes courage and it takes love. And I guess that’s one of the reasons why people feel more alone and disconnected than ever. 

Cuz ‘none of us ‘have the time’ to KNOW one another.

We’re all ‘so busy’ with being busy and becoming ‘the best of the best’ that we have no time left to open our hearts and feel the invisible love and connection that links us all together.

On the surface, we might all look very different from one another, but at the core level, we are all the same. At the core level, we are all ONE, connected with one another in a very deep and powerful way. At the core level, we are essentially the same, all members of one human race. There is no separation except the separation we create in our minds because of our attachment to fear.

WITH LOVE ELLE

WE ARE NOT MACHINES.

Yes. We have tons of virtual friends. And we exchange likes, shares, and so many great comments with all of them. But what does that have to do with anything?

We are not machines. 

We are human beings who long for deep, meaningful, and loving connections; Human Beings who long for the world to stop for a moment and realize that we exist…

Can you just breathe and look around you? 

I know you are busy. And I know you have a trillion things to do. But can you stop for a moment? 

Can you just breathe and look around you? Can you notice where you are going and how fast life is passing you by?

All that you deem important in life always seems to be Out there, never Right Here; never Where you are, never Who you are, and never with Who you are.

Have you ever wondered why? Or are you too busy for that as well?

Yes, the world is in a hurry. And there are a trillion things you need to do. But none of them are more important than getting to know the Real You.  None of them are more important than learning to SEE yourself as you would want the world to SEE you.

You are your most valuable possession. The most precious gift you have is YOU. 

Do not let one day pass you by without paying attention to your Self and moving closer to your Truth. 

Let the world do what the world wants to do. And you do You. Because in the end, that’s all that truly matters.

Be true to yourself. Walk your path with integrity. And trust that in doing so, life will bless you with people and experiences that will be true to you as well.

Love ELLE XO