You are ocean deep and those that are as shallow as puddles will always dismiss you, misunderstand you, abandon you; all for fear of disappearing in your depths.
Pain is the body’s way of letting us know something is wrong, pain is also how the universe lets us know that we are in need of spiritual growth.
Your trauma does not own you and it never will; remember that when it is trying to convince you that you are forever broken.
Even mightiest hurricanes do not last forever, and eventually will die to nothing but a tiny dust storm, your misery will one day end too.
No one is allowed to judge the way you choose to let go of your pain and your heartache.
You owe no one an explanation for who you become after you are traumatized
Grieve for as long as you need to and allow the pain some kind of release.
The best personal growth you will ever have happens in times of extreme personal strife and tragedy.
The damage does not and will not define you, but it will make you softer, kinder and better if you let it.
Anything that does not aid you in your growth deserves to be let go.
You heart deserves better than to be constantly reminded of the things that broke it over and over again.
The stars didn’t collapse their lungs to breathe life into yours for you to think you are a mistake.
Your heart was made for braver and better things than the people and the things that broke you.
When life shows you a cliff over a sea of pain, you have two choices: fly or fall.
You have saved yourself from drowning every time before this. You will rescue yourself again.
Perspectives change and life betters once you start treating all of life like it is a series of lessons you must learn.
Your scars are a warning to all future monsters, of the hell you have survived before them, every demon you vanquished, and every battle you won.
The greatest lessons you will ever learn; how to love someone without trying to own or belong to them, and how to let go gracefully of the things and the people that hurt you.
Let go. But only at your own pace and at your own time. Some things need to be mourned before they are let go gracefully.
Choose the uncomfortable path, even if it means paying for it with your stability because that is how you grow and how you chase your dreams.
Take this as the sign you are looking for: Yes, you should let go if it’s making you feel that unhappy and yes, you deserve better.
When you numb your pain, you’re cutting yourself off to part of living. When you numb your pain, you’re not letting yourself be fully human. When you numb your pain, you’re not getting rid of it and you’re not wiping it away. You’re not making it disappear, either. You’re just burying it.
And then it’s only a matter of time before it resurfaces.
I hope you know it’s ok to not be ok.
I hope you stop pretending to be ok for the ones around you, too.
I hope you let yourself feel.
Are you sad? Let yourself feel that sadness. Recognize how it soaks into your bones, how it rests heavy on your heart. Let yourself drown in your tears until you have no more water within you, till it feels like you have nothing left to give and your bones are dry. Let yourself feel the rawness of the wound – where it hurts and where it’s hollow.
If you jump to numbness, how can you heal?
I hope you know it’s ok to not be ok.
I hope you stop pretending to be ok for the ones around you, too.
I hope you let yourself feel.
I hope you let yourself feel your pain. I hope you let it reach your heart, your mind, your soul. I hope you feel it from your fingers to your toes. I hope you recognize how your pain affects how you navigate through this world – how it bleeds into your work, into your relationships with others, into your relationship with your self.
I hope you feel it.
When you let yourself feel it, it becomes easier to work through it. When you let yourself feel it, you’re able to climb to the other side of pain. When you let yourself feel it, healing becomes tangible and feasible, and within your reach.
When you let yourself feel your pain, instead of numbing it, joy becomes the thing you hold onto and the thing you seek.
I hope you know it’s ok to not be ok.
I hope you stop pretending to be ok for the ones around you, too.
Today, it’s okay to be broken. It’s okay to be hurt or discouraged, and you don’t have to make yourself be ‘okay’. No, not today.
Today, it’s okay to feel lonely. Maybe things had been tough. Maybe he fell out of love and you just felt out of place. And that’s okay. Today, cry as much as you can. Breathe as much as you need to. You don’t have to fake a smile. No, not today.
Today, it’s okay to feel rejected. I know you badly want that job; you badly need that business to flourish. I know you badly need that validation, that approval, but it’s okay if things didn’t happen the way you wanted them to—you can always try again. But no, not today.
Today, it’s okay to feel demotivated, defeated, and exhausted. Maybe efforts were exerted but were not appreciated. Maybe you gave it your best but you weren’t seen or appreciated, or maybe you just feel like you were not valuable—things like that happen. And even though that was difficult, you’ll be okay. You’ll still thrive. But you don’t have to force yourself to do it right away. No, not today.
You know what you’re gonna do today?
Today, you are going to stop.
You are going to breathe.
You are going to rest.
You are going to trust that things are gonna work themselves out at their own pace, and you, you are going to figure everything out, but at your own time.
Today, you are not going to rush yourself to feel okay, to feel better, to feel happy.
Today, you are not going to rush yourself to be filled again. Today, it’s okay to be empty. Today is not the day you will try your hardest to fix all that is broken. Today you will come as you are.
And then maybe two, 20 or 200 days from today, when you smile, your heart will be smiling too.
When you say you’re okay, you will mean it every single time.
When you speak, it will be kinder, it will be encouraging, it will bring life.
When you get compliments, you will accept them, you will own them.
When you move, people will be inspired, people will feel supported. Light will just radiate from you.
Maybe 10, 20, or 200 days from today, you will be okay and it will be real. I’m rooting for you.
