Strong girls don’t realize how strong they are until a little bit of time passes, until they’re able to look back on everything from a distance.
In the moment, strong girls mistake themselves as weak. They think there’s something wrong with them for breaking down, for having trouble leaving the house, for crying their eyes out, for lashing out, for questioning whether they can make it through another day when the last one was already hard enough.
In the moment, it’s so easy for even the strongest girls to doubt themselves. It’s easy to say, I’m not sure whether I have what it takes to beat this, I’m not sure whether I can get through this pain, I’m not sure whether I’m going to feel this way forever.
In the moment, you might not be able to see light coming through the cracks. You might lose faith in yourself. You might lose hope in your future. You have no idea what’s in store for you, so you have no idea whether you’re going to be able to handle what’s coming. You have a million different questions and aren’t getting any answers.
In the moment, it’s easy to overlook your strength. You don’t feel strong for surviving another twenty-four hours. You don’t feel strong for walking away from a bad situation. You don’t feel strong because your emotions are pulling your thoughts in a million different directions. You’re too busy experiencing fresh pain to see the situation clearly, to see how strong you are for making it through to the other side.
Right now, you might not think you’re anything special. But when you look back at all of the bullshit that was thrown your way, you’re going to be proud of yourself for how much you accomplished. You’re going to be impressed by all of the times you could have given up but decided to keep going, to keep believing.
When you look back on everything you’ve gone through, you’re going to be able to see the situation more clearly. You’re going to be able to take a step back and say, I never should have been subjected to that kind of pain, that would have been difficult for anyone to get through, it takes a strong person to survive that, I must be stronger than I thought.
If you haven’t been able to reach that place of self-reflection yet, if you’re still in the middle of hell right now, you have to remember that you’re stronger than you believe. You can do this. You can make it through this heartache, this loss, this struggle within yourself.
You were strong enough to get through yesterday even though it was hard, and you’re strong enough to get through today too.
In this moment, you might feel weak, vulnerable, like everything you do is wrong — but in the future you’re going to look back and wish you could pat the current-you on the back because you’re doing the best you can. You’re stronger than you could ever imagine.