In time, you’ll get where you need to be. If you aren’t exactly where you want to be, there’s a lesson you’re still learning. This delay isn’t meant to be punishment or some type of twisted torture. No, it’s allowing you to build all the resources you need to propel your success.
The truth is, you’re already moving in the direction you want to go. Just because the progress isn’t as fast as you’d like doesn’t mean it isn’t happening.
You’re learning how to navigate life your own way. There is no blueprint on how to live your unique life. It’s never been done before. You can have all the mentors and guidance in the world, but they aren’t you. Your mentors give you advice based on their lived experiences. You still have to decide how these recommendations fit into the context of your life.
Please believe that in time, you’ll get where you need to be. So many of us give up when there’s any sign of struggle. Your setbacks do not mean you’re a failure. Your setbacks aren’t a sign to quit. Your setbacks do not mean you’re on a mistaken path. Your setbacks are not an indication that you’re the wrong person for the job. If you’re moving forward in five steps but take four steps backward, you are still moving forward. Do not quit.
Changing your mind about how you show up is not quitting. Taking time to rest is not quitting. Choosing a different direction is not quitting. Changing your mind is not quitting. Having doubts and moments where you question if you should just pack up your bags and disappear is not quitting. Surrendering to the process is not quitting.
Surrendering to the process gets you closer to where you need to be. The things that are meant for you will come easy. We think easy means that we aren’t required to put in work. We think that easy means a lack of conflict. No, easy means that despite setbacks, you choose the same purpose, goal, or person time and time again. The decision is easy, not always the process. And so often, we confuse the two. Other times we make the process much harder than it needs to be because we believe that we must struggle and suffer for what we want. What we truly want to know is “Am I worthy enough for this?” This is an act of self-sabotage.
The cure for self-sabotage is to take action. Messy action. Imperfect action. Any action. I know you have a desire and purpose in your heart that keeps you pushing forward. Don’t lose sight of this. Please believe that in time you’ll get where you want to be.