7 steps to finding your purpose

Purpose. It’s such a powerful word, and a lot of us still fear it, while others are already living it.

But what is a purpose and why should you want to find yours?

Your purpose is your contribution to this world. It is what you are here for. What you have been born for. And your purpose is unique to you. It is your calling. Only you can follow your own purpose and make your difference in this world. Nobody else will. And that’s the reason why you matter. You have something amazing to offer.

If you haven’t found your purpose yet, don’t worry. Nobody says it’s easy. But I’m sure you will want to find it if you aspire to live your best and most meaningful life.
You have one life. And you are unique.
And that’s why you need to start looking for your purpose NOW.

Let’s climb into the driver seat of our lives and find our true purpose to make a difference in this world. It’s hard work. But it’s totally worth it.

In this post, I walk you through the 7 steps to finding your purpose.

1. Love yourself

To start the journey to your purpose, there is one vital thing you need: love yourself.

Self-love is not egotistical, nor arrogant. It is something you need to become happy and fulfilled in life. It’s the first step towards finding your purpose: Only when you love yourself, you will want to make your life better and invest in yourself.

Only then you will feel “worthy enough” to look for your purpose in the first place. Then you will know you deserve to feel happy and fulfilled!

Look at yourself in the mirror and name what you like about yourself. Make a list of things you do well. Regularly take breaks. Say nice things to yourself and reward yourself.

2. Be honest with yourself

Stop and take a look at your life. Without judging, analyze whether you are satisfied with your life.

Do you feel fulfilled? Is there something that’s holding you back? Do you love what you are doing or is it making you feel tired? Is your gut telling you that this may not be what you want? Is it harder than it is supposed to be?

If anything is feeling not quite right, you must first learn to admit it and don’t deny or even ignore it. You need to be honest with yourself. Only then you can find your true purpose.

3. Make room

  • Free your mind

Free your mind by distancing yourself from all the thoughts you don’t need. If you are constantly being bombarded with thousands of thoughts, it’s nearly impossible to focus.

An amazing way to calm down your thoughts and learn to control them is meditation. Sit down, close your eyes and breathe. Let go. And when the thoughts appear, look at them from a distance, without digging into them, without getting into the drama. Let them go again without judging them and bring the focus back to your breathing.

  • Take distance from other people’s thoughts

Other people won’t understand your decisions. It’s fine and you should not expect them to understand. There will always be people thinking you’re stupid or silly. People judge, no matter what you’re doing. Don’t listen to them. Don’t try to fulfill anyone else’s expectations. This is your life and you decide. 

4. Make time for self-discovery

You have freed your mind and detached yourself from the pressure of other people’s thoughts. But what is now the right thing to do? To find out, you first need to figure out who you are. I know it sounds like a cliche, but it stays true for everyone. This quote by Jay Shetty explains exactly what I mean with this:

You don’t know what you need in life until you figure out who you are.

Jay Shetty

You cannot expect to know what you want or need if you’ve never invested time in getting to know yourself. Make time for yourself, make space to reflect. The time you spend looking for your true self never is wasted time.

5. Look for what energizes you

To find your purpose, you first need to look for what energizes you. Ask yourself these questions: What gives me energy and motivates me? What is it that makes me loose sense of time? What is it that makes me feel fulfilled?
This can be literally everything. May it be reading, cooking, watching movies, seeing friends. It doesn’t matter.

What does matter is that it gives you energy.

6. Transform the thing that energizes you into your purpose

Your purpose comes into question the moment you’ve found out what makes you feel energized. The next step now in finding your purpose is: How can I help others with it? How can I use this to make a change in this world?

If you love to read, then maybe become a book reviewer and help people chose their lecture. If you love cooking, then start creating your own recipes, write a cookbook, or maybe start your own cooking show! Your passion is writing? Start a blog or write a book! You just love talking to people and inspire them to do something specific? Become a teacher or even a public speaker!

Your possibilities are endless, and you are most definitely going to find what is right for you. I am a hundred percent sure.

7. Don’t give up

The last but not least important step is not to give up. Ever. It may happen that what you’ve first taken for your purpose turns out not to be the right thing either.

But this is the very moment you need to decide to go on.

Life is a huge process of trial and error, and no matter how often you need to reorientate, refresh your mind, reinvent yourself… it is all freaking worth it. Because you were born to find and live your purpose and to contribute something to this world.

The world needs you.NOW.

You don’t want to end up feeling sorry for yourself, nor for the world. That’s why you need to start your journey NOW, without ever looking back.

In A World Afraid Of Vulnerability, Be A Safe Place For People

We live in a world where a lot of people are afraid to show us who they really are. A world where “I am fine” is what people say when they couldn’t be feeling worse. A world where vulnerability is only seen to be for the faint-hearted. A time where people have never felt more alone in this widely connected and globalized world.

Yet it does not surprise me at all. If it has been so normalized to run away from our own emotions, which are a very normal part of the human experience, then how can we be a shelter to another person’s heart? When instead of trying to know what shakes the person in front of you, what keeps them awake at night, or what makes their soul shine, we just want to pass time blabbering about mundane things and anything that’s stripped of real emotions. Then it’s normal for people to feel so lifeless.

I wish more people knew that vulnerability is cool, that their fears are valid, and that their pain needs to be heard. You are not an outlier. I am sorry if society tries to shut you up. I am sorry if people don’t give your heart the space to breathe through the storms. I am sorry if you’ve opened up to the wrong people and decided that it’s better to keep it all to yourself. You are brave and you are strong and you are a person of real substance. You are a rare gem in this world because you choose to show your humanness, because you choose to speak about your worries and dreams and shortcomings just as much as the pretty and shiny things. You are real.

My hope for this world is for people to feel more heard, for people to allow themselves to be less shielded, knowing they’ll be met with more ‘me toos’ and a willingness to understand. I hope that when someone comes to speak to you about their trauma and grievance, you try to be a safe space for their trembling voice. I hope that when someone shows you the less confident side of themselves, you show them it’s okay. I hope that when someone speaks their heart out about their passion, you try to be truly interested in the details.

I truly hope that in a time where people focus on success and perfection and being admired, we might also have the ability to be our rawest selves without ever feeling less of a person because of it.