7 steps to finding your purpose

Purpose. It’s such a powerful word, and a lot of us still fear it, while others are already living it.

But what is a purpose and why should you want to find yours?

Your purpose is your contribution to this world. It is what you are here for. What you have been born for. And your purpose is unique to you. It is your calling. Only you can follow your own purpose and make your difference in this world. Nobody else will. And that’s the reason why you matter. You have something amazing to offer.

If you haven’t found your purpose yet, don’t worry. Nobody says it’s easy. But I’m sure you will want to find it if you aspire to live your best and most meaningful life.
You have one life. And you are unique.
And that’s why you need to start looking for your purpose NOW.

Let’s climb into the driver seat of our lives and find our true purpose to make a difference in this world. It’s hard work. But it’s totally worth it.

In this post, I walk you through the 7 steps to finding your purpose.

1. Love yourself

To start the journey to your purpose, there is one vital thing you need: love yourself.

Self-love is not egotistical, nor arrogant. It is something you need to become happy and fulfilled in life. It’s the first step towards finding your purpose: Only when you love yourself, you will want to make your life better and invest in yourself.

Only then you will feel “worthy enough” to look for your purpose in the first place. Then you will know you deserve to feel happy and fulfilled!

Look at yourself in the mirror and name what you like about yourself. Make a list of things you do well. Regularly take breaks. Say nice things to yourself and reward yourself.

2. Be honest with yourself

Stop and take a look at your life. Without judging, analyze whether you are satisfied with your life.

Do you feel fulfilled? Is there something that’s holding you back? Do you love what you are doing or is it making you feel tired? Is your gut telling you that this may not be what you want? Is it harder than it is supposed to be?

If anything is feeling not quite right, you must first learn to admit it and don’t deny or even ignore it. You need to be honest with yourself. Only then you can find your true purpose.

3. Make room

  • Free your mind

Free your mind by distancing yourself from all the thoughts you don’t need. If you are constantly being bombarded with thousands of thoughts, it’s nearly impossible to focus.

An amazing way to calm down your thoughts and learn to control them is meditation. Sit down, close your eyes and breathe. Let go. And when the thoughts appear, look at them from a distance, without digging into them, without getting into the drama. Let them go again without judging them and bring the focus back to your breathing.

  • Take distance from other people’s thoughts

Other people won’t understand your decisions. It’s fine and you should not expect them to understand. There will always be people thinking you’re stupid or silly. People judge, no matter what you’re doing. Don’t listen to them. Don’t try to fulfill anyone else’s expectations. This is your life and you decide. 

4. Make time for self-discovery

You have freed your mind and detached yourself from the pressure of other people’s thoughts. But what is now the right thing to do? To find out, you first need to figure out who you are. I know it sounds like a cliche, but it stays true for everyone. This quote by Jay Shetty explains exactly what I mean with this:

You don’t know what you need in life until you figure out who you are.

Jay Shetty

You cannot expect to know what you want or need if you’ve never invested time in getting to know yourself. Make time for yourself, make space to reflect. The time you spend looking for your true self never is wasted time.

5. Look for what energizes you

To find your purpose, you first need to look for what energizes you. Ask yourself these questions: What gives me energy and motivates me? What is it that makes me loose sense of time? What is it that makes me feel fulfilled?
This can be literally everything. May it be reading, cooking, watching movies, seeing friends. It doesn’t matter.

What does matter is that it gives you energy.

6. Transform the thing that energizes you into your purpose

Your purpose comes into question the moment you’ve found out what makes you feel energized. The next step now in finding your purpose is: How can I help others with it? How can I use this to make a change in this world?

If you love to read, then maybe become a book reviewer and help people chose their lecture. If you love cooking, then start creating your own recipes, write a cookbook, or maybe start your own cooking show! Your passion is writing? Start a blog or write a book! You just love talking to people and inspire them to do something specific? Become a teacher or even a public speaker!

Your possibilities are endless, and you are most definitely going to find what is right for you. I am a hundred percent sure.

7. Don’t give up

The last but not least important step is not to give up. Ever. It may happen that what you’ve first taken for your purpose turns out not to be the right thing either.

But this is the very moment you need to decide to go on.

Life is a huge process of trial and error, and no matter how often you need to reorientate, refresh your mind, reinvent yourself… it is all freaking worth it. Because you were born to find and live your purpose and to contribute something to this world.

The world needs you.NOW.

You don’t want to end up feeling sorry for yourself, nor for the world. That’s why you need to start your journey NOW, without ever looking back.

5 Tips to Stick to Your Wellness Routine

Creating a Wellness Routine You’ll Stick To

I honestly believe that part of the reason so many attempts at a routine or healthier lifestyle fail, is because we force ourselves to do things that don’t bring us any joy. To start sticking to a wellness routine, you have to create one that you actually want to do. Sure, drinking lemon water first thing in the morning like your favorite celeb seems like a good idea at first, but if you find yourself forcing lemon water down your throat while cringing from the sour taste and then hating every minute of it… then maybe that’s not for you.

So here’s the thing, a good wellness routine is one that you enjoy doing that will benefit you and support your well being (physically, mentally + spiritually). Don’t force yourself to stick to any habit just because it’s trendy, just adopt habits that make you feel good. Think of these new habits as part of a self care routine too. No matter what they are, it’s all about growing and taking you towards that dream life you crave. Good? Ok! Moving on to my tips!

Tip 1 — Think About Why Your Routine Didn’t Stick Previously

In order to create strong routines you need to first figure out why your attempts haven’t worked in the past. I’m guessing is because you talk yourself out of it, make excuses, let fear take the wheel or just forget. I know I used to make so many excuses. Plus we all know the ever popular “I’ll start tomorrow”. What has helped me a lot is to really question myself. Why am I giving up? Why is it I cannot do this? Basically, I take inventory of my thoughts and feelings to get to the root of the problem and then go from there.

Tip 2 — Start Small

Planning routines that take too much time eventually leads to burning out and being inconsistent. It is better to FORM a habit first before adding lengthy routines to your schedule. This is a little thing called Lowest Barrier of Entry and this method will help you stick to a habit! For example, if you love to read and want to incorporate that into your life then start small. If you set out to read 3 chapters every day and one time you find it impossible to accomplish therefore deciding to skip it, you break the routine. At the beginning, make the smallest commitment, one you feel you can actually accomplish every day without it becoming a burden. Vow to read 3 pages per day, meditate for 1 minute every day, go running for 1 minute in the mornings etc. Remember, this has to be fun for you, so bottom line: START SMALL. You can always add pages or minutes later 😉

Tip 3 — Be Intentional With Your Routine

One of the biggest things that made me stick to my routine for a whole year (and still going strong!), was to set my intention on it first. WHY do I want a wellness routine? Why am I doing this? Why do I want this? How is this going to benefit my life? I even wrote it down multiple times throughout the year. I really wanted to get clear on the benefits a wellness routine would bring into my life. So think about it in your own life. What would sticking to a wellness routine do for you? How will it change your life? Having that answer handy will help cancel out any negative thoughts or excuses that will eventually pop up when first starting out new habits.

Tip 4 — Track + Be Accountable

It is so easy to fall out of a routine, there are so many distractions that can come from anywhere… your dog, kids, work life, traveling and even weekends can all be the kryptonite to your wellness routine. I know I always have so much trouble getting back into my habits when I’m away from home for so long. After much trial and error, I have found success in tracking my habits every day. There are loads of apps for this too! The thing is, it holds you accountable. Having to log habits somewhere keeps you on track and really helps you when you’re first starting out in forming a new routine.

Tip 5 — Be Kind to Your Mind

As always, I implore you to be kind to yourself. Changing your life is a process. It is also not linear, it is a rollercoaster and there will be days where you forget to do your routine. That is totally ok! The important thing is to get up the next day and start your routine fresh. Don’t beat yourself up for not doing it perfectly every time. Remember that your thoughts are powerful and what you say and think will affect your mood. The whole goal of a wellness routine is to keep those joyful vibes in your life so if you miss a day or two, don’t sweat it ok? Just try again the next day and keep that intention in mind.

The best way, in my opinion, to stick to a wellness routine, is to really be intentional with it. You need to always keep in mind why you are doing it and the benefits it is bringing to your life. Do that, and you’ll be living a balanced joyful life in no time.

What is your biggest struggle with sticking to a routine?