Strong Girls Don’t Always Realize How Strong They Are

Strong girls don’t realize how strong they are until a little bit of time passes, until they’re able to look back on everything from a distance.

In the moment, strong girls mistake themselves as weak. They think there’s something wrong with them for breaking down, for having trouble leaving the house, for crying their eyes out, for lashing out, for questioning whether they can make it through another day when the last one was already hard enough.

In the moment, it’s so easy for even the strongest girls to doubt themselves. It’s easy to say, I’m not sure whether I have what it takes to beat this, I’m not sure whether I can get through this pain, I’m not sure whether I’m going to feel this way forever. 

In the moment, you might not be able to see light coming through the cracks. You might lose faith in yourself. You might lose hope in your future. You have no idea what’s in store for you, so you have no idea whether you’re going to be able to handle what’s coming. You have a million different questions and aren’t getting any answers.

In the moment, it’s easy to overlook your strength. You don’t feel strong for surviving another twenty-four hours. You don’t feel strong for walking away from a bad situation. You don’t feel strong because your emotions are pulling your thoughts in a million different directions. You’re too busy experiencing fresh pain to see the situation clearly, to see how strong you are for making it through to the other side.

Right now, you might not think you’re anything special. But when you look back at all of the bullshit that was thrown your way, you’re going to be proud of yourself for how much you accomplished. You’re going to be impressed by all of the times you could have given up but decided to keep going, to keep believing.

When you look back on everything you’ve gone through, you’re going to be able to see the situation more clearly. You’re going to be able to take a step back and say, I never should have been subjected to that kind of pain, that would have been difficult for anyone to get through, it takes a strong person to survive that, I must be stronger than I thought. 

If you haven’t been able to reach that place of self-reflection yet, if you’re still in the middle of hell right now, you have to remember that you’re stronger than you believe. You can do this. You can make it through this heartache, this loss, this struggle within yourself.

You were strong enough to get through yesterday even though it was hard, and you’re strong enough to get through today too.

In this moment, you might feel weak, vulnerable, like everything you do is wrong — but in the future you’re going to look back and wish you could pat the current-you on the back because you’re doing the best you can. You’re stronger than you could ever imagine. 

What Depression Actually Is, Because It’s More Than ‘Just Being Sad’

Depression isn’t the saddest person in the room. Quite contrary actually, depression sometimes is the person you would have never expected. Along with trying to convince you they’re happy, they’re trying to convince themselves.

Depression isn’t that melancholy person, you don’t want to be around. Oftentimes, it’s the person everyone loves because of the light they bring to a room is so bright but that’s only because they know darkness.

Depression isn’t the person screaming out for help. It’s the silent person dealing with battles they’re still trying to understand themselves.

Depression is doing everything you can to hide it. Because there’s nothing glorified about it. There’s nothing beautiful about a bad night as you fall to your knees, in a silent scream, that no one hears because you’re alone and you need to be until you get through it.

It’s the sleepless nights as you lay awake at 2 am staring at the ceiling.

It’s that time of year, you just get a little bit sadder for no reason.

It’s the tears you don’t tell people you cry because you don’t really know why you’re crying, you just know you need to.

It’s the want and need to be around people but at the same time, you push them away.

Depression is watching across social media, everyone’s highlight reels and you know it’s not an accurate depiction of their life yet you still compare yourself to them.

It’s the plans canceled last minute because you couldn’t muster the strength to get out of bed.

It’s your alarm going off in the morning and you just want to go back to sleep.

Depression is that cloud that doesn’t seem to go away ever. And even in those happy moments, you cling to, you know it’s still hovering over you. Depression waits. It creeps and lurks. It waits for the best day of your life and your happiest moment just so the next one can be your worst.

It’s the fear of such happiness because you know it’s bound to fade.

It’s every good day, that are few and far between and that’s what you hang onto.

It’s the struggle in explaining to people when they ask why are you depressed? You just don’t know and you don’t know how to fix it. It’s just a feeling you can’t shake but you’re learning to work through.

Depression are toxic habits or people you gravitate towards.

It’s drinking the way you do because at least for a moment your pain is numbed. You know the effects lead to being even more depressed the next day. And you know alcohol is a depressant but being numb helps sometimes.

Depression is the constant imbalance of things in your life.

It’s either overexercising and being at the gym for hours or staying in bed for weeks immobile.

It’s either sleeping too much or too little. But no matter what, you’re always tired.

It’s eating too much or just never being hungry. It’s someone asking, ‘When was the last time you ate?’ And you actually don’t know the answer.

It’s weight loss that people commend you for but you know even you couldn’t help it.

Depression is people asking if you’re okay and you don’t respond with ‘I’m sad.’ You simply say, ‘I’m tired.’

It’s the envy of looking at others and just wanting to be that happy. So you glamorize your own life so it appears that way.

Depression is the overcompensating in relationships and trying too hard. You know you’re tough to deal with but there isn’t anyone you love more than those who accept you, as you’re still trying to accept yourself.

It’s that really scary moment when you open up to someone about what it is you deal with. And that new level of friendship you reach, when they welcome you with open arms and it almost brings you to tears.

It’s loving people unbelievably hard because you’re still learning to love yourself.

It’s looking ahead and looking forward to certain days in your life and really appreciating everything.

And even though you might not say it, as often as you should, it’s the love you have for everyone in your life which gives you strength.

Depression is becoming addicted to anything that gives you purpose. Whether it’s being a perfectionist in academics or becoming a workaholic. It’s becoming the most involved in a group or organization because you need something to look forward to. It’s excelling in sports because it really helps to have that and a team to fall back on.

It’s the need to be busy because if you’re not you’ll spend too much time alone and everything will get worse.

But more than that, depression is the person who would do anything to make others happy because someone else’s happiness is their own.

Depression is being overly observant because you know what it’s like to hide things, so you look for it in others.

It’s being the first one willing to help and being the person you wish you had. Knowing well, there’s nothing you can say or do but be there for them and that’s okay.

But more than that, depression is a  strength in you because there’s nothing harder than overcoming demons within yourself.

It’s the trust people have in you, knowing they can turn to you without judgment.

It’s the excitement you bring to others because even though you’re sad, you do love life.

Depression is being the happiest, saddest person, people know but there’s a bit of beauty to someone who knows both emotions at such an extreme level.

Depression is an appreciation and gratitude for life. It’s knowing no matter what happens things will get better.

Depression is hope even in moments that seem hopeless.

It’s not letting this define who you are but rather learning to live through it and being the example others can follow.

Read This When You Feel Like You’re Not As Strong As Everyone Thinks

There might be days when you feel weak, when you feel like you’re on the edge of a meltdown, when you feel like you cannot take this any longer, when you feel like everyone has the wrong idea about you.

Your friends and family and strangers on the internet might think you’re strong, but that’s only because they haven’t seen the real you. They haven’t seen your vulnerable side. They haven’t seen you breaking down crying in the middle of the bathroom. They haven’t seen you at your lowest, at your darkest, at the end of your rope.

Because they weren’t there for all of your most miserable moments, you might think they’re wrong about how strong you are — but they’re not. You are strong. Much stronger than you think. Much stronger than you will ever know.

You’re strong because you’ve allowed yourself to feel, to worry, to be vulnerable, to spill your heart out, to cry your eyes out, to scream into pillows and wipe away smeared mascara. You might think those things show weakness, but that’s not the case. It takes strength to be honest about your emotions instead of locking them deep down inside. It takes strength to express yourself. It takes strength to care.

You’re strong because you have been through a lot of shit but you’re still standing, still breathing, still fighting, still here. Maybe you feel broken. Maybe you feel bruised. But you’re alive.

You’re strong because even on your darkest days you’ve found reasons to keep going, to keep hoping, to keep holding on, to keep believing tomorrow is going to have something better in store for you than yesterday.

You’re strong because this world can be a brutal place. People aren’t always kind. Situations are not always fair. Life is not always easy. You’ve been dealt a few bad hands throughout your life but you’ve kept going anyway, you’ve kept chugging forward, you’ve kept going, kept going, kept going. And that, on its own, shows you exactly how strong you are.

You’re strong because you have baggage, you have flaws, you have a million reasons to get upset, to back down, to give up, but you’ve never quit. You’ve never lost complete faith in yourself. You might be more cynical than you used to be when you were younger, you might have unshakable insecurities, but there’s still a part of you that believes in your own potential. That’s why you’re here right now. Because, deep down, you know your worth. You know you deserve happiness. You know you deserve success. And you know that you are going to get it soon.

You’re strong because you’ve made it this far. Despite all of the bad things you’ve been through, despite the heartaches and losses, despite the traumas and horrors, you’ve made it until today. And you’re going to be able to make it until tomorrow, too.

A Strong Woman Never Gives Up On Herself

A strong woman never gives up on herself even when her whole world collapses. Even when her heart is heavy and her troubles are relentless, she still keeps the faith, she takes one more brave risk, she gives herself a thousand more chances, she keeps going no matter what because this is who she has become. She found herself alone time and time again. She found herself in situations where she had to defend herself and fight back alone. She learned the hard way that people can be there for her but at the end of the day she truly only has herself and she can’t give up on it.

A strong woman has no other option. She learned how to recover quickly from the things that knock her down. She learned that life goes on even after the hardest losses. She learned that she has to knock on many doors and find opportunities so she can be prepared for the random changes in her life.

A strong woman keeps herself in check. She doesn’t let herself wallow in self-pity or dwell on her mistakes or surrender to toxic and self-destructive behavior. She learned the exact opposite, every time she was faced with a new challenge or another heartbreak or a tragedy, she would go back and find ways to love and nurture herself even more. She would turn all this negative energy into something productive and she would always put the focus back on herself. She knew that these are all tools to sharpen her edges and she wasn’t going to let anything hinder her growth, her potential and her progression.

No matter what she’s going through, a strong woman will always show up for her loved ones, she will still exercise and take care of herself, she will still get her work done, pay her bills, laugh and be present in her life because she has learned that all these dark times eventually pass, a broken heart eventually heals, confusion eventually turns into clarity, all the questions eventually get answered and little by little, life gets better, the sun shines again, things change, new beginnings restore her faith in life and sometimes life even surprises her with something wonderful, something even better than what she hoped for.

A strong woman never gives up on herself because she knows that everything else will come and go but she’s the only constant in her life. She’s her own pillar. A strong woman builds herself within so that even if she cracks under pressure, she knows how to rebuild herself again.

God, Please Give Me Strength On The Days I Feel I Can’t Go On Anymore

Lately, I feel like I am running on fumes. I am on empty; my strength odometer is on zero right now.

Sometimes I wonder if the suffering will ever end. I have defeated every obstacle that has crossed my path, but I am tired. After each battle that I have won, there was another one waiting around the corner.

They say that God gives the toughest battles to the stronger soldiers, but God, you must have a lot of faith in me because sometimes I don’t even know how to keep going. Sometimes I just want to give up and let life have its way with me and destroy me.

I am not asking you to make my trials go away, because I know that my trials make me more resilient. I am not asking you to make the pain go away, because I know pain makes me stronger. I am not asking you to make life easier, because I know that the harder the battle, the sweeter the victory. Instead, I simply ask you to give me strength because I feel weak—I am exhausted, and I’m not sure how much more I can take.

Some days I feel like I just can’t go on. Everything feels like too much for me right now, and I know that I don’t have the strength to get through this on my own. There is only darkness inside my brain and pain flowing through my veins.

Dear God, I know that you are working on me to become the woman that I am meant to be, but I ask you to please give strength on the days I feel like I can’t go on anymore.

I know that I can come to you and that you will hear me out. I know that it is not your intent to bring me to this point just to leave me in the eye of the storm alone. Please shelter my mind from the storms that roam inside.

My heart is troubled, but I am fully trusting you to give me the strength that I need for the days ahead.

God, I come to you for strength—strength for my body to keep pushing, strength for my mind to keep going, and strength for my soul to keep living. I need your strength to stand strong in the midst of situations that require much of me.

God, I come to you for help—the help that I need to face every adversity that crosses my path.

God, please give me the strength that I need today so I can see another tomorrow.

You’re Strong, Even Though You’re Suffering Right Now

You’re strong, even though you keep breaking down in tears. There’s nothing wrong with releasing the emotions that have been eating away at you. You have to retrain yourself to recognize that feeling isn’t a bad thing. It doesn’t make you weak. You don’t have to run from your emotions. It takes strength to confront them, to admit you aren’t actually okay and need to work towards healing.

You’re strong, even though it might feel like you’re falling behind, like you should be further ahead by now. It’s natural to feel like the people around you have their lives one-hundred percent together while you’re still trying to figure basic things out. However, you need to remember you’re only seeing bits and pieces of their world. You’re only witnessing the parts they’re willing to show you. Even your closest friends and family members might be hiding their worst moments from you. You’re not as alone as you’ve convinced yourself. You’re not the only one who feels this sting of pain.

You’re strong, even though there are days when you can’t bring yourself to climb out of bed, to shower, to brush your hair, to smile. Sometimes, the ‘simple’ activities most people take for granted can feel like mountains you aren’t sure whether you can conquer. Instead of beating yourself up about how much trouble you’re having with the small things, you should be proud of yourself for whatever you can manage. Maybe you can only handle a little today, but who knows what tomorrow could bring? Go easier on yourself. Stop treating yourself like a punching bag. You’re not stupid or lazy or weak. You’re going through a lot right now.

You’re strong, even though you’re going through a rough time right now, even though you’re unsure how to cope with the emotions swarming through your head. You might not have the answers right now, but you’re going to figure this out. You have time. You need to breathe. You need to focus. You need to remember everything is going to be okay. You need to trust yourself. You need to be gentle with yourself. You need to believe you have this handled. Maybe not today. But eventually.

You’re strong, even though you’re struggling. The world isn’t always fair. Life isn’t always going to be easy. You aren’t always going to be comfortable. There are bound to be bumps throughout your journey. It doesn’t mean you’ve done anything wrong. It simply means you’re human. But you are going to get through this. You are going to push through these rough times and make it to the good ones.

You’re strong, even though there are moments when you’re convinced you’re weak.

You’re loved, even though there are moments when you’re convinced you’re unlovable.

You’re going to accomplish great things, even though there are moments when you’re convinced you’re a failure or that your best days are behind you.

Remember, what your brain is telling your right now might be a lie. You can’t believe the worst thoughts you have about yourself, but you should start believing the best.