When You Feel Like You’re Falling, Trust That You Will Land

I see the struggle in your smile as you try to pull it together for me while it’s slowly falling apart for you. I see you being brave, putting one foot in front of the other day after day. I see how it’s difficult to go on when disappointment weighs heavy within you. But my dearest, I see you gather your strength to weather this season that life has brought you to, and this is what I want to say as you trudge along the road ahead of you.

Trust that you will land, my love.

Trust that after you’ve fallen into uncertainty, you will find your ground and you will learn to fly again. The fall may cause you to forget just who you are and what you are capable of. In these moments, I hope you remember two things: nothing you go through can change who you are and everything you go through will change who you are.

You are beautiful in your core and nothing can touch that. You’re feeling the heat of the fire you’re walking through right now. It will burn, but it will also refine. And you will come through, old and new.

Sometimes it takes a little forgetting who you are to remember all the things you wanted to be, to piece together the life you were meant to live. It takes a degree of discomfort, a nudge out of the nest, a freefall into a valley of your fears.

When you find yourself there, let these be the words that echo in your heart. Though the gravity of dejection may keep you low, you will find it within yourself to rise up yet again. Though clouds of uncertainty may overshadow your days, there will always be a light within you that will spark hope and promise over your days. And though your situation may grip you and cause you to feel stuck, the courage you possess will push you through.

Small movements will move you slowly towards where you are meant to be. And surely you will see there is nothing you cannot defeat. There is no race, my dearest, no finish line after which things will always feel certain. There is only steadying yourself each time you are shaken. Putting yourself back out there each time you feel beaten.

So, take a moment, my love; I see your pain in this process. But don’t let fear freeze you; take flight to places you’ve never been and trust that you will land.

This Is Your Reminder To Slow Down And Trust Your Timing

There’s no rush.

Naturally, we compare ourselves and our journey to other people’s paths. It’s our instinctual human tendency to be loved, adored, and cherished; thus, we judge our own worth by the external validation that we receive from others while not fully realizing that our lives are no longer our own to figure out.

But this is your reminder to breathe, slow down, and go at your own pace.

It’s easy to feel overwhelmed in life because you’re not exactly where you want to be right now. This enormous pressure that we create for ourselves may carry a heavy burden on our shoulders and ultimately affect the things in our lives that matter most — our health, our relationships, our passions, and our ability to be present in this moment. All the things cannot be replaced as time goes on.

In my own life, there have been so many times where I’ve caught myself becoming anxious over a future version of myself that I wish to dictate and control the outcome of. This feeling of ‘control’ often stems from a lack of true metrics in which we are judging ourselves by. We desperately want to live up to other people’s standards of what they believe to be happiness and success, when really, we need to foster and cultivate our own standards for what we want to know as success and happiness.

You do not need to prove anything to anyone — you are more than enough as you are now. While you can always grow to become a better individual — a better version of who you are now — let’s not take away the fact that you deserve to be proud of who you are today and who you’ve become through all the tribulations of your life thus far.

Breathe. Slow down. Take a moment for yourself. Gain perspective. Trust your path. Trust yourself. These are the foundations of a life well-lived that stems from your worth being based on who you are now inside, not from what’s outside of you.

Because at the end of the day, what’s the rush?

In the end, we all end up in the exact same place. And while this may be a scary thing to think about at first, it’s also enlightening to know that we don’t need to be so hard on ourselves — we just need to be real with ourselves and what we really want in our lives.

Choose your life. Don’t allow others to choose it for you.